It's weird... I had no idea until today that one of my co-workers got a divorce recently. I guess other than the bosses, I'm the first to know.
He's an attractive guy who's in his late 30's but look like he's only 30. Hey hey now... don't jump to conclusions. I have zero interest. Anyway, I would have never guessed that he was having these issues.
Apparently, his wife had an eating disorder and was a crazy workout lady. He, himself, is pretty athletic, being an expert swimmer and such. But, anyway, this caused a drift between the two of them. She refused to eat with the family, and she and her husband slept in separate bedrooms. And, then, the divorce papers were issued to him all of a sudden, out of nowhere.
I guess he doesn't understand. He says that people usually break up due to addictions to gambling, to drugs, etc. But, in his mind, things were still workable, fixable... and I agree.
He also said that once you make the commitment of marriage that you're supposed to grow together, not go and try to seek individuality. I don't think he knew for sure if that was right to say, but that's what came out... and it makes sense. Marriage, I guess is making promises that are sometimes also sacrifices.
It's interesting how some people just want to give up all the time.
How do you know that the person you marry won't change after a given amount of time?
I guess the most important things about a person really are: Commitment, Honesty, and Ethics.